Just like the phrase ‘I love you’, I believe that the word sorry should only be spoken when the individual saying it is being genuine. I don’t think it’s fair or right to just throw it around and I think that doing so is a major problem in the world.
I once had a teacher who said that the word sorry means that you’ll never do something again. I disagree. I’m sorry that I go through anxiety and that I put my family through it, but that doesn’t mean that I will never struggle again or that there won’t be times when I’ll need their help. I wish I could say there won’t, but I know that there will probably be times in the future when, because of my anxiety, I make things difficult for others. I am sorry.
Unfortunately, because I can’t just stop being anxious, I think some people are under the impression that when I apologize, it’s in vain. They don’t seem to understand how much I wish that I could just turn my anxiety off.
There are people in this world, like myself, who only apologize when they mean it. There are people who don’t believe in just throwing the word around when it sounds good or when they’re trying to get out of trouble. To the people who only say they’re sorry when they truly mean it, thank you!
There are also people that don’t respect the word and use it as a way to try to escape their ignorance. How many times have you heard a celebrity, politician, or just your Average Joe say something horrible and then the next day, say they’re sorry? How many times have you heard someone make a totally racist comment and then claim that it was simply anger in the ‘heat of the moment’ that drove them to say something so awful? How many times have you gotten in an argument with someone and just so the argument ends, they’ve apologized but didn’t really mean it? How did that make you feel?
I hate when people say horrible things and then think that a simple apology makes it all better. Don’t get me wrong, if the apology is genuine then you should probably forgive the individual (depending on what was said or done, of course) – after all, everyone makes mistakes. What bothers me is when people apologize and don’t mean it – when they’re hearts aren’t really in it.
The word ‘sorry’ is sacred, please respect its meaning. Google defines ‘sorry’ as “feeling distress, especially through sympathy with someone else’s misfortune”. If you’re not truly upset about what you said or did (and no, being upset of the repercussions of your words or actions is not the same!), then please don’t apologize. Apologies should only be given when truly meant.