The word ‘bullying’ is a word that I’ve come to find extremely annoying. I never used to find it bothersome, but lately it seems like everyone is using it. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that bullying is an issue, it always has been. However, it seems like it’s become a subject that’s getting much more attention as of late.
I think that the fact that so many people (whether it’s kids or adults) are being teased, made fun of, and treated like crap – is horrible. I think that it is the fault of the bullies that so many people are finding themselves struck down my negative, cruel words. I think that the number one way to stop bullying is for each and every one of us to become kinder individuals and to teach our children to do the same.
First let me say, that I’m not a mother. I know nothing about parenting or the difficulties of doing such. I know that you can teach your kid all there is to know about respect, and they can still not listen to a word you say. I also know that you can teach your son and/or daughter to not listen to the hurtful words of others, but they will and that when they do, the words may still hurt. Hell, it may even crush them.
Still, just as my parents taught me, I think all parents need to teach their kids about bullies and how most of the time, the cruel words spoken by others, reflect the fact that these individuals are unhappy with their own lives. I think that parents need to teach their children how to be kind to others and how to ignore the mean comments that both kids and adults tend to pass along.
I completely understand how ignoring being bullied can be difficult. However, I think we’re all teased in school at one point or another and while this is a sad truth, we need to learn to develop a sort of tough skin. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t be sensitive – no, that’s far from what I’m saying. Rather, I’m saying that we have to learn not to take everything so seriously. I think that we have to remind our children that they are amazing, no matter what other people might say.
Throughout my years in school, I was made fun of a few times. I was made fun of because I was skinny, unpopular, and sometimes – for reasons I wasn’t even completely sure of. However, I knew deep down that most of the time, the people who were making fun of me were just being jerks. Don’t get me wrong, their comments hurt and sometimes I would question myself, but I knew these individuals were just being cruel. I knew that I was loved and that a lot of people found the beauty in me.
I think parents, teachers, and friends need to remind their loved ones how wonderful they are and how they shouldn’t listen to those who are cruel. Yes, we all need to be able to take some amount of criticism, but let’s face it, some people are just assholes. I think parents need to remind their children that the best way to fight the cruel words said by ‘bullies’, is to ignore them.
Hearing about so many individuals taking their lives because of bullying or being so sensitive to the subject, makes me wonder if parents are doing their jobs. Are they talking to their kids about the fact that often times, mean individuals are just taking their anger out on innocent people. Are parents reminding their children that just because mean words are spoken, doesn’t mean that they are true? Are parents, teachers, and friends reminding their kids, students, and friends just how wonderful they are? Remember, strong children become strong adults.