There seems to be this belief that feminism is meant to “put men down” or that all feminist “hate men” and both of those claims are false. At least if you really understand the meaning of feminism.
Feminism stands for gender equality. Equality of all genders and the fact that they should have the same rights and access to the same opportunities and resources.As a feminist, I would never tell a man (or tolerate a man being told) that he needs to “man up,” as if expressing emotions makes him weak. I am completely against denying the fact that men can be victims of sexual and/or physical abuse (this belief is a part of the reason that so many refuse to come forward). I recognize that men are body shamed for not having “enough” muscle (as if muscle mass determines how masculine you are). Their sexuality is questioned because they dress nicely, are skilled at cooking (both very stupid to believe). I do not agree that it is okay for men to be ridiculed if they don’t make more money than their partners. If they work from home or are a stay-at-home dad, then they are ridiculed for being the “woman in the relationship.” None of these things are bad but everyone has different experiences so who are you to judge from the outside looking in?
And those are just some of the reasons.
Did you know that in Arkansas a non-profit opened the first ever shelter for men that are victims of abuse in the United States? It took this long for someone to realize that abuses isn’t something that “just happens to women” and that men need to have the same support. This one step took forever and although it is progress that is still just one shelter in one state out of fifty in a very large country.
I think it’s great when a man announces that he is a feminist and supports womens’ rights, but they need to know that we support them too